What has happened to friendship?

by - July 13, 2009

We are living in the age of facebook, myspace, twitter etc where people add literally anyone and everyone to their friends' list. I have noticed some people with as many as 300 friends and wonder how can a person have 300 friends all at the same time, in one lifetime? Lets say 100 of them are relatives, colleagues or acquaintances. What about the rest 200? Can anyone have that many friends? If yes is the answer, then those are the luckiest in the world.
I have been in Dubai for the past eight years, and I haven't been lucky enough to make one true friend let alone two hundred of them. I don't mean to say that females of our species are not good enough in Dubai. I made quite a few friends back in college. However things change once you get married and we went different ways. Since then, I have met few people through work, university, at the gym etc. Yet no friends.
This is when I start missing school days. Back then making friends didn't seem to be such a hard labour. Sharing lunch, notes, pencils, pens or other beloved stuffs was all that required to be friends. There were no false presumptions. Yes there were arguments that sometimes turned into full headed battles. But the heat vapourized in a day or two. Inspite of everything we go through during school days, the friends we make then stay with us forever.
Its quite funny how difficult it is to make new friends these days. We meet somewhere, share thoughts and exchange our phone numbers. We leave promising each other we would call, we would definitely keep in touch. Although we never call, we creep into each others facebook list. And when, finally, one does take the first step and call, the other is busy or at work or there or here. Blah Blah Blah.... Even replying to a short sms (that hardly takes a minute) is impossible. The next time they happen to meet, excuses start flowing. Oh I did see your sms but I was too busy at work that I couldn't reply. Blah Blah Blah again. And once again we part with promises on keeping in touch. Thus the same routine follows with one person or the other.
So I ask myself. What has happened to friendship? Why has it become so hard to be friends with someone? Yes, we are all in Dubai to find work and for our livelihood. Still, don't we all crave for companionship? Wouldn't it be nice if we could unwind at a coffee shop chatting away with our girl friends, forgetting our worries? Wouldn't it be nice if we could catch the latest movie? Wouldn't it be nice if we could call someone in the middle of the night so that we can cry on the tragic ending of our latest novel's heroine?
Is that too much to ask for? ...... I guess in this part of the world, it is.

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  1. I just loved what u wrote above. Not so similar but ya to an extent the same. Had lots of friends way back in college and some good ones in work. Now when I just check my list I see them busy with their own lives. Hardly, one or two say a hi ya bye..excuses, problems, worries, greed to make money..I don't know what more..and why people tend to go away...and don't keep up their promises! But I'm happy that at least we are still together right from our school days..

  2. i know da... i dont understand y replying to an email/sms is so hard for them... just dont understand sometimes...

    yes, am happy that we are still together... whenever am online, i check whether u r online too...so that we can catch up on latest :)

  3. I used to get angry when my friends dont reply to my emails or phone calls....now i have just given up....!!!!Even i am busy with my life nowadays...
    One lesson i learned after i started working is that....at office you make colleagues not friends!!!

  4. Very interesting. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I realized today that I have 173 "friends" on facebook. Some are family and some friends of my kids and some are work related friends, but I am happy to say that many of them are real friends and some are very good friends. I am thankful for each and everyone and am praying you will find a "good" friend in Dubai.

  5. @Lori - You are blessed to have good friends,,, May them be with you forever :)


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