Musings on Turning Thirty and Lessons Learnt

by - February 25, 2014

As I’am sitting here, eating a sweet omelette topped with some raspberries past midnight and contemplating on what my next blog post should be, I have this sudden urge to make a list. I'am turning thirty in few days and what did I learn so far?  

I remember how, few years back, I was really worried about turning thirty. In our culture, thirty is really old. If you are a female and not married by thirty or if you do not have any babies by thirty, you are doomed. Yes, it is that serious. And I grew up with that notion hovering around my mind. So I thought turning thirty meant turning really old. Heck, I remember how some relatives started calling me ‘old’ when I turned twenty five. Twenty Five!

But then it started changing. I remember when I started a book club, most members would congratulate me on starting something new at a young age. I was twenty five. I was shocked. When I launched PPS, I was again congratulated for starting a business at a young age. I was twenty eight. I was still shocked at being called young, but I was kind of getting used to the idea of me not being old.

During those years, I also read and heard people in their thirties being addressed young. And slowly I started realizing that I wasn’t old at all. In fact, I was still young and at my prime. 

And now, with just few days remaining for my thirtieth birthday, I feel really calm and at peace. This wasn’t how I expected to feel at all. I thought I would be nervous and worried about where my life was going or how I was doing as a parent or something similar. But funnily, I feel just the opposite. Alhamdulillah.

Let me tell you that it is not because my life is without problems or I lead a really comfortable life. I do have my share of issues, but I guess time has taught me to deal with them in a more mature manner than I used to.

Let's get to the list now, shall we? Here are thirty lessons I’ve learnt in my short life on this gorgeous planet called Earth, in no particular order: -
  1. Pray hard. Work hard.
  2. Be grateful for everything. Everything.
  3. Be kind to your parents. You will really understand their value when you become one.
  4. Saying No is important. Very.
  5. Take one day at a time.
  6. It is okay to be an introvert.
  7. It is okay to be emotional. Yes, why not?
  8. Love your family and friends wholeheartedly. But never ever forget to love yourself.
  9. Let go of things or people who are not giving you anything positive anymore.
  10. Watch your words, whether online or offline. Very important.
  11. Switch off often. Take a break.
  12. Schedules and plans are important. But not if they affect your relationships.
  13. You cannot impress everyone and you don’t have to.
  14. Honesty is good. But there is a very thin line between straight forwardness and rudeness.
  15. No matter how difficult a situation looks like at first, it always gets better.
  16. Read good books. And bad books. Just read, will you?
  17. It is never too late to start or do anything.
  18. Cooking is an important life skill. For both men and women.
  19. Do not give up after the first try.  
  20. You do not have to justify your life choices.
  21. Do not waste food, water and electricity. There are millions out there who need them.
  22. It is okay to make mistakes. Learn to learn from them.
  23. There is no need to follow a trend or do something because everybody is doing it.
  24. Everyone has something unique to offer.
  25. Be open to new ideas. Be open to change.
  26. Try to be original. Stop copying.  
  27. Run. Or walk. Or swim. Just move your body. And eat well.
  28. Document your life through words or photos. Your life story is important.
  29. Remember to laugh. Let your happy spirit shine through.
  30. Forgive, forget and move on.
Now let me get back to my sweet omelette. Okay, it not as fancy as it sounds. Just eggs whisked with sugar, crushed cardamom and pan fried. It was one of the first things I learnt to cook with my sister. Oh sweet memories!

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  1. Happy Birthday in advance!! I love being in my thirties, I'm so much more sure of myself now than I was in my twenties. I don't take nonsense from people anymore and I'm a lot happier with myself. Love all the points in your list, except the part about not justifying your actions to anyone but God!!

    1. Thank you! Although, I'am not technically thirty yet, I know how you feel. I'am a much more confident person than I used to be.

      By not justifying, I meant to human beings of course.

    2. True!! And in that regard, some humans need to be kept at arms length always :)

  2. Beautiful, just beautiful! And very, very inspiring.
    I'm sure you'll rock your 30s as you've done the 20s. Happy 30th in advance!
    (p.s.: now say, same to you :D)

  3. Came here from Salomie..and loved this post...your pointers are very are as young or old as you feel, I am in my late 50's and still dont feel old:)

    1. Thank you Renu. Yes, we are as young or as old as we feel. :)

  4. Even I came here from Salomie's blog - 30 is just another number. 40 is the new 30 and in some years 50 will be the 30 :)
    Wishing you a belated happy birthday and many many more accomplishments.
    Blogrolling you!


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